Honesty and Senior Online Dating

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This has got to be true because many online dating services ask the participant to rate themselves on the "good looking" scale and so far every man I have looked at has rated himself as "very good looking." Excuse me... have you looked in a mirror lately? Who do you see? The man you were once, the man you wish you were... or the man you are? Very, VERY few individuals, male or female, are very good looking over the age of 60 at least by our society standards. Wrinkles, sunspots, worn, torn and sagging muscles all take their toll on a once handsome (or pretty) face.

Now, it is possible you are still very handsome but how would a gal know if you are wearing a hat with a broad brim or ball cap with a visor casting a shadow down your face AND you have on sun glasses. Then there are the photos that would be telling close ups if they were not in shadow altogether even without the glasses and hats! And of course, those long distant shots of you on your boat a half a mile out, those are always really helpful too. Good Heavens! What were you thinking when posting such pictures?

Add to this the problem of pictures that are not current and are not dated and to flirt or not to flirt becomes an adventure (to put a positive spin on it).

And I am not just picking on the men though they are what I see the most, of course. I once read a profile of a really pissed off gentleman who ranted: Ladies, please post a current picture so I don't have to get a DNA test to verify if you are actually the person you presented on the website. He had clearly been surprised by more than a few ladies whose pictures were from by gone days. More recently, a realtor wrote: I want to see a close up and a full length photo and no posed glamour shots please! Apparently portrait shots can hide a more than ample figure, and he continued, please, no pictures of your pets, cars or living room, though in my opinion all these things can be very telling about a person. If the pooch is in every picture, you KNOW you are going to share a bed with that darling.

The other challenge to online dating is the guy (or gal) who tells you about himself with six words or less, or with the always favorite: I'll tell you later! Four words! As for what he is looking for: Contact me, I'll tell you then. Now this has got to mean either he is lazy, hiding something or wants the "contactee" to do all the work of "connecting." I guess his good looks were supposed to be enough for a lady to reach out to him... provided she can actually see his face.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Attraction is in the eye of the beholder so there is no reason not to be honest about yourself and how you really look NOW, because the "beholder will see what they need or want to see and if you are not that, you are in for a rejection no matter how exceptional your profile!

Internet Dating Tips for Women: How to Dress for a First Date to Ruin It

If you're a single woman seeking love online these days, you've already invested a lot of money, energy, heart, and time into trying to find a boyfriend at a singles website. By the time you get to a first date, both of you have jumped over multiple screenings from either other. Don't let how you dress for the first date ruin it for you and your chances of being asked out for a second date. When you want to get a boyfriend online, how you dress for a first date can make all the difference for creating chemistry and attraction in person and advancing to more dates. Read on to learn what to avoid wearing on first date least you ruin your chances with getting to a second dates with the cute guy you met at the singles dating site.

You met the cute guy. Maybe the two of you first met at the fun and hip online dating website with the cool new app over at Facebook. The two of you flirted online. You exchanged messages and have now successfully navigated to where you two are meeting for your first date. You might be feeling excited. Maybe your breath is even catching a little bit in fun first date anticipation of the two of you meeting.

Now the all important question of "What shall I wear for the first date to make it great?" Don't fall victim of these common first date dire dressing disasters which single women make. Instead read this article to help you to dress for your first date success!

Number 1: Dressing Too Casually

From single guys to married men, when they see you arriving for the dinner date, nothing says "I don't care" better than a single woman wearing just jeans and a t-shirt for a first date.

Your too casual first date clothes scream to others, "I don't want to impress you or myself. I couldn't be bothered to make an effort."

If you make this dire dressing disaster, then just don't expect him to ask you out for a second date. Miss 2Casual just gets asked for a First Date only.

Number 2: Dressing Like a Prude

If you are wearing a secular equivalent of a burkah, namely you are not a conservative Muslim and yet are dressing like one, then something is off. Muslim single ladies who are dressing very modestly are typically chaperoned or the first meeting either is likely arranged by your families and the two of you are meeting under their watchful eyes as well.

Short of that, what are the rest of you single ladies doing wearing baggy loose, high necked clothes that completely cover up your having a female figure? Your conservative Muslim lady example might be very covered up. But her clothes and the patterns on the fabrics she is wearing are quite often very feminine. Remember, guys are visually stimulated. You want to blend looking visually appealing and alluring with your being classy. That means eschew the tent dress of this Miss Prude and instead wear something feminine and visually attractive.

Number 3: Dressing Too Grunge Style

Grunge dressing went out of style more than a decade ago. What I am talking about is not a fashion image style which is out-dated. I've seen single women show up wearing their workout wear after their workout. Their hair is somewhat disheveled and unkempt. Their clothes are crumpled. And this is what they think is acceptable to wear to a first date! This look is different than that of her too-casual, "I don't care" attitudinal dressing counterpart. Miss Grunge really has no clue how to clean up and dress nicely. Miss 2Casual dresses like she does because she has an attitude of not caring to make an effort to impress her date.

Remember, when you're a single woman dressing to meet your date for your First Date, avoid looking like Miss 2Casual, Miss Prude, and Miss Grunge.

Instead, dress to look and feel your best, both for the sake of your date who has asked you out and is taking you out and for your own sake of feeling your very best. When you dress to feel your best, you look great and increase your likelihood for the guy to ask you out for a second date.

Online Dating Etiquette

You can dress how you want, and have your hair how you want but you must have online dating etiquette the moment your fingers touch the keyboard. This is the point where the single on the other end will feel part of the reel you. This is where everything you type will be scrutinized as everything naturally is at an online dating service.

So first and foremost you have to be honest from the moment you create your profile. Any little white lies or completely made up stories will get found out eventually. At that point your creditability will go along with your current online date. Singles chat to each other in chat rooms, on message boards and give information in blogs. You don't want to end up as one of their topics. Honesty is attractive no matter how you look at your keyboard.

When you first contact someone, say hello with an e-mail. Lots of online dating services have smiles or flirts but you can't beat a personal message.

You can mention parts of their profile that have caught your attention, and it shows them that you have actually read their profile.

Everyone is inquisitive when they start conversing with someone online but that doesn't mean you should continually ask questions. Don't give other singles a reason to be put off. You need to just let the questions flow with the conversation. Weave them in naturally. If they bring something up that can lead into a question then ask it. Also give some information about yourself as well then other singles will be more willing to let their guard down a bit.

Become a good listener. Most people like talking about themselves, and this can lead into you asking a few questions that they will be willing to answer.

Plus this shows that you're paying attention, and that can only be in your favor.

Never ask questions or make statements that will put your date on the defensive. Subjects like politics and religion should be left alone for quite a while. Leave these topics of conversation till you know someone very well or even wait until you have met them offline.

Leave all capital letters and abbreviated sentences out of the conversation. When you use capitals it's a form of shouting online, and abbreviated sentences become hard to decipher and annoying. You will probably get a way with the odd smiley so they know when you're joking but don't over do it. Remember this is someone you are trying to impress, and maybe one day have a lasting relationship with. Presentation is everything especially when attracting a partner.

Do not come across as eager or desperate. Never push someone into doing

 

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