Showing posts with label Beginners. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Beginners. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Honesty and Senior Online Dating

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This has got to be true because many online dating services ask the participant to rate themselves on the "good looking" scale and so far every man I have looked at has rated himself as "very good looking." Excuse me... have you looked in a mirror lately? Who do you see? The man you were once, the man you wish you were... or the man you are? Very, VERY few individuals, male or female, are very good looking over the age of 60 at least by our society standards. Wrinkles, sunspots, worn, torn and sagging muscles all take their toll on a once handsome (or pretty) face.
Now, it is possible you are still very handsome but how would a gal know if you are wearing a hat with a broad brim or ball cap with a visor casting a shadow down your face AND you have on sun glasses. Then there are the photos that would be telling close ups if they were not in shadow altogether even without the glasses and hats! And of course, those long distant shots of you on your boat a half a mile out, those are always really helpful too. Good Heavens! What were you thinking when posting such pictures?
Add to this the problem of pictures that are not current and are not dated and to flirt or not to flirt becomes an adventure (to put a positive spin on it).
And I am not just picking on the men though they are what I see the most, of course. I once read a profile of a really pissed off gentleman who ranted: Ladies, please post a current picture so I don't have to get a DNA test to verify if you are actually the person you presented on the website. He had clearly been surprised by more than a few ladies whose pictures were from by gone days. More recently, a realtor wrote: I want to see a close up and a full length photo and no posed glamour shots please! Apparently portrait shots can hide a more than ample figure, and he continued, please, no pictures of your pets, cars or living room, though in my opinion all these things can be very telling about a person. If the pooch is in every picture, you KNOW you are going to share a bed with that darling.
The other challenge to online dating is the guy (or gal) who tells you about himself with six words or less, or with the always favorite: I'll tell you later! Four words! As for what he is looking for: Contact me, I'll tell you then. Now this has got to mean either he is lazy, hiding something or wants the "contactee" to do all the work of "connecting." I guess his good looks were supposed to be enough for a lady to reach out to him... provided she can actually see his face.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Attraction is in the eye of the beholder so there is no reason not to be honest about yourself and how you really look NOW, because the "beholder will see what they need or want to see and if you are not that, you are in for a rejection no matter how exceptional your profile!

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Online Dating For Beginners

You've seen the television ads, you've read about online dating in the newspapers and in magazines. But what you haven't read is the 'How-To' get started with online dating.
Well, here it is, the information you need to get started with online dating.
First off, join up at a dating service. We have more than 400 reviews of online services, so you're sure to find a fun, affordable and easy to join online dating service within the aLoveLinksPlus.com website.
But for our purposes, we suggest joining Friend Finder. This online dating service has many features and includes some great benefits for free members. So go to Friend Finder and we'll begin.
Click onFriend FinderComplete the basic signup information, following directions carefully to become a free memberYou will receive a registration email, save it somewhere safe, be sure to write down your Friend Finder member name and your password.

Follow the next steps only after receiving and completing the instruction sin the email you receivedReturn to Friend Finder and login. Go the the 'My Account' page and complete all areas that you can. The better your profile is, the more attention you'll receive and the better the chances are for you to meet people. Keep in mind, as a free member you can only reply to one message every day, so be picky about who you email or consider upgrading your membership. (Be sure to complete the picture upload, the voice and video message sections. Webcams and microphones are cheap and easy to sue and are essential equipment for online dating where the features are available.Complete your first search being very general about the area you want to meet people in. Keep the age selection about 5 years younger to 5 years older that you are and use your state or province as opposed to only your city. The more results you get, the better you will fare in meeting people. If the results are overwhelming then it's time to get more exact in your search selections.Check the search results carefully and add to your hotlist the members you'd like to eventually send a message to. While your waiting for messages to arrive in your member inbox, (keep in mind a completed profile including voice and video messages will greatly increase the number of messages you'll potentially receive) go and speak your mind in the advice forums and add poems you've written (or will soon write!). This is another great way to get noticed and encourage other members to contact you.Following the steps above, taking the time to completely filling out the profile sections, including all the features available such as uploading video and voice messages in your profile, will guarantee a great online dating experience.

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