Saturday, January 30, 2010

Online Dating With Herpes

Dating with herpes is a difficult topic for most people who have it to talk about. When you first come down with herpes, at first you probably feel like you'll never be able to date again. The harsh news of a confirmed diagnosis can be very difficult for many people to deal with, and reactions vary. Some people get angry at the person who gave them the disease. Others spend weeks trying to figure out where they got it. Many people get depressed, and go into a funk, thinking that their love life is ruined forever. But dating with herpes is not only possible, millions of people are doing it.


The first thing to keep in mind is that one out of four people in the United States have genital herpes. So you're far from being alone. Most of them are able to date successfully, even though at first they were just as devastated as you were by the news of their herpes infection.

The second thing to keep in mind is that you'll need to be honest and upfront with every person you date about the fact that you're carrying the virus. This doesn't mean you have to tell every person who's interested in you, or every one you go out with about the disease on your first date or conversation with them. That's not necessary. But it does mean that if things progress further, that you have a moral obligation to let them know before you get intimate with them.

Third, with one in four adults in America having herpes, there is a big market for dating solutions for people with the virus. One of the best ones to come along was the creation of dating and social sites and organizations only for people who already have herpes. This may be the ideal solution for you. It has been for tens of thousands of people, who have used these websites and organizations to find the romance and love they once thought they would never experience again.

Dating with herpes doesn't have to mean living a lonely, loveless site. It just means doing things a little bit differently from now on.